Monday, October 01, 2007
Bullying seminar notes
These are from some seminar notes from Spring Harvest about 2 years ago...
Some definitions of bullying
Why do people bully?
Some definitions of bullying
- Name calling
- Spreading rumours
- Making up stories to get people into trouble / take away friends
- hitting / tripping / poking
- remarks about colour / physical appearance / looks
- choosing not to be someones partner
- being left out when choosing teams
- taking possessions / demanding money
- hiding stuff
- sending nasty text messages
- prank phone calls
- doing things that you know will make someone ill
Why do people bully?
- Traumatic event
- Boredom
- it gives power
- because they are spoilt and always want their own way
- because that's what in going on at home
- some are under pressure to succeed, so they "have a go" at those who don't try
- they don't fit in...it's a way of getting some power / respect etc.
- they have no sense of accomplishment...they can get some people to do stuff
- they have a negative attitude...
- could be scared of the bully even years later
- being too scared to do or say anything
- can't except praise
- suicide
- causes a wrong view of God...if everyone else bullies you...surly God will
- scared of walking to / from meetings / youth group / school etc. May constantly ask to be driven or may change their route.
- they stop coming all of a sudden
- may suddenly become withdrawn..."hide at the back" of the group
- suddenly start stammering
- threaten suicide / run away
- all of a sudden feel ill before some activity
- begin to underachieve....stop giving the right answers...maybe they are being bullied for being bright
- their stuff gets damaged
- they start to lash out
- they stop eating
- they present improbable excuses
- The no blame approach...draw a pictures / write a poem
- Mediation
- Circle time
- Peer group programs
- "Telling", ie, use a message box to allow people to post their concerns
- Sometimes they bring it on themselves...children can spot a victim from an early age
- Some children don't like their name because someone has misused it
- If you suspect someone is being bullied, start recording any incidents in a log book
- Check out the book Odd Girl Out - the hidden culture of aggression in girls
Labels: Bullying, Spring Harvest, Training
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